Change Your Hair, Change Your Life

“A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life.”
                                                                                                       ― Coco Chanel

How often do you change your hairstyle?  When’s the last time you tried a new haircut?

I’ll admit it:  I’ve been in somewhat of a rut the last few years.  I go to the salon maybe twice a year (don’t judge me, my hair grows pretty slowly) and get pretty much the same cut.  “Just long enough to put in a pony tail, right?” my stylist always asks.

But the last six months I’ve really seen a change in my hair, which is yet another one of those fun benefits of menopause.  My hair has always been thin, baby fine, soft, and a bit oily, ever since I was a kid.  But one day I woke up and my hair was dry and brittle and (gasp) showing some grey.  It also started thinning which is a cause for alarm when you have thin hair to start with.

For the first time in my life I started using conditioners and hair masks.  And yet the hair continued to get drier.  I looked in the mirror last week and realized that my hair was looking a little ragged — dry and straggly.  I was looking a little old. And so, I resolved to cut it off.

I went to the stylist today and told her I was ready for a change.  We chatted a bit about options and she recommended that I cut it up to my chin.  “Which chin?” I asked with a laugh, as she gave me the uncomfortable look of a person trying not to insult someone.  In the end,  she cut off over four inches, and added some different layering.  The result is — very cute.

I immediately felt lighter. More attractive. Confident.  Which made me wonder, why does a new hair style have such a profound effect on people?

A new hair style is often a sign of a big transition.  Bad break-up or divorce? Cut your hair.  New baby? Cut your hair.  Big birthday? Cut your hair.  New job? Cut your hair.

Some studies show that the average woman changes her hairstyle about 100 times during their life time.  That seems a little high based on the people I’m around, but I’m sure that’s true for some.

People often change their hairstyles because they’re looking for the perfect cut. You know, the one where you have to do little or no work to look fabulous.  People also tend to change their cuts when their face shape changes, due to things like weight fluctuations, or aging.

Changing your hair can also be a confidence boost.  A new style or color can perk up your attitude, and positive feedback about the change can also infuse you with a little extra confidence.

For many of us, hair is symbolic.  The action of getting rid of your hair can be cathartic and make you feel better.  It’s also something we can do that has an immediate impact.  Other physical changes can take months or even years to be evident, but you can create a whole new look with one thirty minute hair cut.

Taking control of your hair can help you feel more in control of your life, especially during those big life changes where things might feel a little out of control.

Feeling a little stressed?  Feeling unattractive?  Need a pick-me-up?  Hit the salon and make a change.  You’ll be glad you did.  And if you aren’t, don’t worry, your hair will grow back.

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  One thought on “Change Your Hair, Change Your Life

  1. Emmy
    February 13, 2019 at 7:00 pm

    I’m the opposite, I go once a month and have had long hair, very short hair…different styles, all colors except purple, blue, pink, green or black lol. I always had the need to change my look but then again I think that has a lot to do with the way we feel inside. People have asked me how could I go from long hair too so short but the answer is very simple, it will grow back! The one thing I do recommend is being careful with the bangs…they’re a pain to grow back! I have literally walked out of a salon and have already thought about my next look!


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