I’m going to say something that may surprise you: you are perfect just the way you are. Yes, YOU. You are perfect the way you are right now. And so am I.
It doesn’t matter if your thighs jiggle or your hair is frizzy or you eat donuts for dinner or you’re cranky until you have coffee or you can’t touch your toes or the only exercise you do it looking for the remote. You’re still perfect just the way you are.
Today my email and social media is clogged with ads for “the best diet” and “special offers” for gyms and people I know starting “accountability groups” or offering to share their exciting new plan. Over and over again I’ve seen the phrase, “this is the year I’m going to finally (insert a resolution here)”. And you know what? It all makes me sad.
People have been making New Year’s resolutions for about 4,000 years, since back when the new year started in March. Ancient Babylonians started making resolutions at the new year to get in the good graces of the gods.
When Caesar implemented a new calendar system, the one that’s the basis for today’s calendar, he decreed that the New Year would begin in January, to honor Janus, the god of new beginnings. It was traditional to create an intention for something you would do as an offering to Janus, in the hopes of earning his favor for the rest of the year.
Fast forward to today when resolutions mostly seem to be another way we tell ourselves — or let society tell us — we’re not good enough. About half of people who make resolutions even believe that they’ll stick to them, and less than 10% actually do follow through. And then they feel like failures.
As Mark Twain said, “New Year’s Day… now is the accepted time to make your regular annual good resolutions. Next week you can begin paving hell with them as usual.”
What if instead of making — and likely forgetting — some grand New Year’s resolutions, we just woke up each day, grateful that we woke up, and made a daily resolution to love ourselves and others just as we are?
Here’s some resolutions I wish I would see:
- Today I am going to love myself more.
- Today I’m going to list at least three things I’m grateful for in my life.
- Today I’m going to stop judging people based on their looks or their race or their sexual orientation or the fact that they don’t have a home.
- Today I’m going to do something I was saving for after I lost weight.
- Today I’m going to put my ipad down, turn on some Abba and dance with my kids.
- Today I’m going to avoid chemical shakes and cleanses and diets and instead I’m going to eat to nourish my body.
- Today I’m going to go to yoga/dance class/swim/ride my bike and appreciate the strength and beauty of my body.
- Today I’m going to sit still for 15 minutes and listen to my breath.
- Today I’m going to recognize the perfection in myself and others.
You are perfect just the way you are, right now, today. I am perfect just the way I am. And even if we don’t change one single thing about ourselves this year, we will still be perfect. And if that sounds crazy to you, make a New Year’s resolution that you will say this to yourself over and over again until you believe it.
Happy New Year beautiful souls, embrace your perfection.
“We spend January 1 walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives…not looking for flaws, but for potential.”
— Ellen Goodman
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